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In this issue:
1. Mindset of the Issue
2. African Proverbs
3. From the Executive Editor
4. Did you know that… AuthorMeProfessionals Seeking Authors To Interview
5. Creative News & Stories

6. Features Writing Realistic Love Relationships.

1. Mindset of the Issue

“Stories matter. Many stories matter. Stories have been used to dispossess and to malign, but stories can also be used to empower and to humanize. Stories can break the dignity of a people, but stories can also repair that broken dignity.”

~ Chimamanda Adichie

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2. African Proverb:

“How stories are told, who tells them, when they’re told, how many stories are told — are really dependent on power.”

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3. From the Executive Editor
Greetings Friends & Creators,
Welcome to you all, our new subscribers
September has us again and I keep wondering where the time flew to. Looks like I
have a few more wrinkles around the eyes and mouth, a doubling girth…
Well, so what. I just need a bit of time to read and write. How hard a request is that? The site is still going strong with authors sending in the author interviews and guest
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4. Did you know that….

AuthorMeProfessionals are looking for Authors of fiction and nonfiction, as well as poetry. We have a hit of over 1,500 clicks per day. Our system avoids applying generic stock questions. Instead we do book-oriented, individualized interviews. These include actually discussing the content of your book; questions are based on the characters/events in your book or any controversial, inspirational or DIY issues you write about that will interest your readers/fan groups as well as ours. Your interview would also remain on our landing page for three (3) consecutive days. Please email to us a copy of your book as a PDF or word.doc attachment to submissions@AuthorMePro.eu. We will then read your book and personalize the questions to fit your book. There would be a fee of €25 (twenty-five euros) to cover the administrative costs of personalizing the questions to your book. For payment, please use our PayPal Account: akinyi100@aol.com. Your book interview would be posted within 6-10 days following receipt of book copy, completed answers to our questions

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5. Creative News & Stories

Forbes 2012 list of richest authors is out. James Patterson is in the lead with
Stephen King in 2nd place. EL James is expected to feature next year.


There is a good article at Forbes on how "Publishing Is Broken, We're Drowning In
Indie Books - and That's A Good Thing."
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6. Features
Writing Realistic Love Relationships

By Carolyn Kaufman, PsyD


Credit: Spekulator
One of the challenges of writing relationships is making romantic relationships realistic. A problem I see in some fiction is that there is no reason for the characters to fall for each other or be in love—other than the fact that they're both excruciatingly hot, of course.
As in real life, your characters should be attracted to the people they're attracted to for a reason beyond the superficial. (Don’t get me wrong, some people fall into passionate but superficial relationships, but they tend to burn out quickly without the
other important aspects of true love: commitment and intimacy.)
In real life, finding and getting along with your “o ther half” long-term is difficult. The

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good news when it comes to fiction is that Conflict is the engine that keeps every story going, and the love relationship between your characters is one of the most important parts of that engine.
Some questions to help you generate realistic conflicts. Try to be as specific as you can when you answer.
What drives you crazy in a relationship? What are your pet peeves?

What drives your partner (or past partners) crazy about you?

What kinds of life decisions and stages have created conflict in your life? That is, which things challenge your relationships? Money decisions? Family decisions? Work decisions? Something else?

What really stresses you out (in general)? How does this impact your relationships with others?

In real life people choose the partners they do for all kinds of reasons, some of them noble and romantic, some of them less so. For example, maybe they had great "chemistry" with their partner. Maybe they had a lot in common. Maybe they need to feel needed. Maybe they wanted to get out of their parents' house. Maybe they were ready to settle down. Maybe they needed someone to help them parent a child. Regardless, there is definitely a reason other than that an author needed them together to make a particular storyline work.
Some things to think about:

What attracted your character to the love interest in the first place?

What needs does the love interest fulfill for your hero or heroine?

Why is the love interest different from all the other men and women out there?

Once your characters are together, why do they stay together? Doing couples therapy was always a fascinating endeavor for me, because couples with enormous problems would come in and complain about each other and the relationship—but still want to make it work. They still loved each other. And they could usually tell you why. In other words, for all of the ways they drove each other crazy, they always had
a reason that they were still together.

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In my stories, relationships are usually messy. People say the wrong things, have affairs, and hurt each other—sometimes accidentally and sometimes on purpose. Ex- partners create havoc, hidden histories drive wedges, but in the end love always prevails for me. I like to pretend to be pragmatic and sensible, but the truth is that I'm a hopeless romantic, and in my stories, love really is the greatest power of all.
Ask yourself:

What is the absolute worst thing each partner could do to the other? (Usually the "worst thing" varies by character.) Why is that the worst?

Can you work that conflict into your story?

Why might your characters still want or need each other in spite of this betrayal?

Usually things are not "like new" after a betrayal—what are the lingering effects

of having survived the conflict?
I'm most drawn to fictional relationships where there is a strong, identifiable reason for an attraction at the same time there are problems (internal or external to the relationship) that are trying to tear the couple apart. For me, the attraction to each other has to be stronger than the problems, but not by much. The characters have to keep coming together the way a pair of magnets will. They might push against each other, but inevitably, they snap together and hold on.

How about you? What are your secrets for making romantic plots and subplots work?

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